I did some writing after my morning meditation today and came up with this. Hope it makes sense...if not just take what you want and leave the rest : )
Love is not self-seeking and does not have expectations. Love is not conditional, it is unconditional. But to be able to love others this way, we must first learn to love ourselves unconditionally. Accepting and appreciating every flaw and every quirk, and seeing that there are no mistakes. Because every experience, flaw or failure has shaped who we are, served its purpose for us at one time, and now our experience can help others. Compassion and empathy can comes from forgiveness, understanding and love...because we too, have been there. So there are no mistakes, and that self-awareness is where our growth comes. And from that we can truly begin to learn unconditional self-love, which will blossom into the greatest gift of all, unconditional love for others.
In everything that we say and do, may we try always to come from a place of love. Love never fails.
Whatever you hear from those who love you,know that it too comes from a place of love. Nobody is perfect, just as we are flawed so are they. Just as we have been forgiven, we should also forgive. Though we may not like what they say or how they say it to us, they love us. They may not have the tools or words to say it "right" but all we should ever hear, is "I love you". So if someone that loves you passes judgement, or tells your something that open an old wound, remember that all they are really trying to say is, "I love you" and "I care". Just as you hear love, the answer is always love. If your filter can translate whatever is said to you, as "I love you unconditionally" then your response can come from a place of "I love you unconditionally"